Friends..what friends really mean actually? Well I guess we have our own definition of it. Honestly, I don’t even know how to define it in words..i mean i have the idea about it but if i were to describe it in written symbol..it would be too long..trust me. So what about friends? Well i have this story to share. It happened to someone i know..and i think it’s worth sharing. However, I want to make it clear that I am not intending to buruk2kan sesiapa..this is just for the purpose of sharing so that hopefully we may learn something for it. Im not gonna go into details coz if i did, it’s gonna be like a 1000-word essay..so i’m gonna narrate the important parts. To make it easy, let’s use labes: A-the person I know, B-A’s friend, C- a boy who is close to A as a friend. Here goes..
B suddenly acted differently towards A..i mean like out of the blue. A realized it but A did nothing because A bukan jenis yg suke sibuk2 hal org. Ok then one day..like 5 days later..A was having a chat with C..and then B lalu. A and C dah reserve tempat utk B duduk tapi B pegi tempat lain n hilangkan diri. Then A dapat tahu yg B tgh nangis in the toilet. So A went to the toilet to ask what was happening. B was with another friend who tried to comfort her. A was feeling weird because A kinda felt that ‘the scene’ has got something to do with A. So A asked what happened..B told A that A has changed a lot because of C..which is ridiculous coz logically, B was the one who suddenly changed..duh! the best part was, B blamed C saying that C has caused the friendship between A and B to somewhat shatter..which is a laughable argument because B was the one who suddenly ‘came out’ with a problem which is not actually a problem. Well, all the things that B said was actually excuses because A found out that B was actually jealous that A is close to C (Now you can see who’s actually creating the problem). And the best part is B only texted A saying ‘sorry’ ..while B called C to apologize and even sent messages (isn’t it obvious that B is into C?) and judging from B’s action, it seemed like B was more concerned with C than with A walaupun diorang dah lama kawan.
There are many more actually but I think this should be enough to share what happened and to help me make my point. Often do we see or experience or hear from other people about this kind of thing..you know..this cliché stuff where friendship is broken because of jealousy? I mean looking at the real-life example above..is it worth it? Imagine you have been good friends with someone and suddenly this someone turns his/her back at you because he/she is jealous? Or because of other reasons such as misunderstanding which is also often a product of jealousy? Kadang2 tu takde apa2 pun actually..kite je yg suke fikir yg buruk2. A was really frustrated because of B..sebab they used to be close friends..but in a way i think it’s a blessing coz at least A got to know B’s true colours. Trust me..it really hurts when your friend do something like this..especially close friends. I haven’t experienced such a thing that was experienced by A..but I did experience other things that kinda related to it. I am not saying that i am sooo good and that I’ve never hurt anyone..i am sure that at some point in my life I may have hurt somebody..maybe unintentionally. But I have been frustrated too..and God knows how it felt. But going through it has made me stronger. I used to be someone who meratap because of such things..you know asking why and why and why he/she did this to me? But i then realized it was tiring and entah2 org yg buat salah tu tak rase bersalah pun. So it’s a waste of tears. The thing that has successfully made me stand up on my feet again every time I face such problem is the thought that I have my family by my side and that I have many other wonderful friends whom I can really count on. So I kinda came up with a simple policy..i can be a good friend but if you crossed the line..that’s it. I can forgive but it’s really hard for me to forget. I am not being mean..but seriously..if someone does this to you..wouldn’t you feel the same thing? I really hope that it will not happen to anyone of us..but hey, lets get real..it’s humans whom we are dealing with. Hope that we (especially me) won’t do such a thing to our friends..
5 comments:
couldn't agree more with u farouk! sometimes it's hard for us not to be mad when we got to know that the so-called friends didn't think sensibly when they act..
i guess some people change over time, and unfortunately they don't always grow in the same direction. it's a sad thing really, but why should we keep them in our lives if they're not enriching it, no? better off befriending people who make us happy! :)
Ok just want to let you know that I spent about 10 minutes trying to figure out who's the A, B and C. Haha..you know me kan, PENYIBUK! haha..
Alright, back to business. Thanks for posting this Farouk. Well I'm that type of person who tends to be emotional when it comes to friendship. I remember, there were times when I acted like B, blaming/accusing someone else for ruining my friendships. It didn't bring any benefits pun. Huhu..
So I 100% agree with you that we shouldn't let our feelings get carried away. If we break a friendship only because of jealousy, then it will be an immense loss for us. And like you said we should feel lucky if we have friends in our life. (and I'm lucky to know you Farouk!) :)
So screw those who don't know how to appreciate us as their friends! Haha..
i pun slalu get jealous when my bestfriend loves to mingle with other but i managed to swipe those feeling. we just need to learn the word 'let go' and 'kawan takkan kemana'
That's the beauty of life, bro. People come and people go. Sometimes, we just have to bear with it. We can't complain much. =)
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